So have you ever had anyone you know drop off the face of the earth? I don’t just mean some acquaintance, but someone you are really close to. Some might not totally disappear, but withdraw from your life in a very significant way.
Of course we all have had close friends that have drifted Away… not really what I am talking about.
I once had a best friend that did that. We planned to get together that weekend. Last words he said to me were that loved me and would see me Saturday. Never heard from him again. All our other friend still had contact with him (even his abusive ex).
Years later had an old friend, Friends for 18 yrs. We would get together and have lunch a couple times a week. I got sick and almost died. He never came to the hospital, never called the hospital, never sent a card, ever called or visited when I got out. Saw him once after. Vsited him in new apartment. Then never head from him again.
Many years later, I met a guy and we become close friends. He would send me several long emails a day. We skyped several times a day ( almost 5 hrs a day). Then one day, skyping stops and his email replies are a sentence or two, sometimes just a couple words. I gave hi benefit of doubt, maybe just a bad time for him. Waiting for things to go back to normal. Never did. When I would ask if it was a bad time for him, he would always say no but be cold. Him pulling away was all in my head. oddly enough, he is no longer around either.
That one was a mess. Also because he wanted more than friendship and it was when I became open to the idea, that he bailed. Played a lot of mind games with me . Treat me like shit, but I am very important to him. Wants to hang out, but is cold ad distant the whole time.
Went through an “I hate men” phase. LOL That lasted for many months. Then decided I had to move on, make new friends, distract myself all his shit.
Made a few friends. Had one who liked to send me messages all through out the day. I get message one day that he has unfriended/ unfollowed me from some site. I politely say ok well goodbye. He says it is a glitch, he would Never want to unfriend me. Then one day he was a little busy. I thought ok I will give him space, just wait until I hear from him again. Guess what. Yep gone with the wind.
At the same time met another friend. We started talking all night. Became very good friends. Talked most days. sent each other emails and pictures, messages through all the different social media sites. Then he stopped responding to my messages and emails. Now I don’t hear from him at all .
It is always men that drop off the face of he earth. Have had convos with them and told the how I would never want to be friends with someone who did not want be my friend. That I would rather just say hey this is not working for me, than spend time with someone who would rather not be there.
So why can’t men just say goodbye. Why can they not say that they don’t want to hang out? Why do they even go so far as to tell you how important you are to them, when it I a lie and they don’t want to be around you? Why do they insist on spending time together and treat you like shit the whole time? Why do they act like you are crazy when they make it plain that they don’t want to be around you? I have given you an out, take it. Why why why????